I like casual dating.
September 4th, 2011
This weekend is flying by, so much that I am really thankful for the day off tomorrow. I don’t know where the days (and nights) have gone. Well, that’s a lie. I do. Eating delicious dinners, watching movies curled up on the couch, sharing secrets, sharing fears, stealing kisses wrapped up in each other.
I don’t want to be exclusive, nor do I want to turn into his “one and only world.” We’re both cool with that. I want him to date around. He’s very intelligent and funny and carries wonderful conversation, so he should share that with other people. I love his stories about his past, his present plans, and future goals. He listens, doesn’t push, keeps within the bounds we set for each other. It’s wonderful. I feel comfortable. I don’t feel like I’m going to have a panic attack. I don’t feel the need to project very much.
This may be my own way of keeping people at arm’s length, but it’s fun and it works. I’m glad to have found someone that it works for too. It’s a nice feeling. Warm and inviting. Because if some guy wanted to date me exclusively and talk about marriage some day and having a family and dedicating his life to me, I would freak out.
I would run away.
We all have issues.
I think setting boundaries is a really good thing no matter is you’re dating seriously or causally. The fact that you understand yourself well enough to know what you do or don’t need/want from people makes you so much better than all of the people who have no idea. I really admire you.
Sometimes I feel as though I don’t understand myself at all, but in this regard, in this moment I think I do. Thank you. :)
Boundaries are a very, very good thing, let me tell you. And I am glad he is intelligent and compassionate enough to get and accept that, and even set a few rules for me.
Boundaries are always a wise decision—for ourselves and those around us. I know I find it hard at times to respect those boundaries that are usually assumed by society. The best method, for me, is upfront conversation that is honest and open so we can know where everyone is coming from, standing, and wanting to go.
Cheers to many more curled together nights and stolen kisses!